A stable relationship is a wonderful thing. It is good for you emotionally, it’s good for your health and your mind and it helps with your connection to other people. Each relationship is different because each couple is different. To have a lasting relationship with your partner, here are a few tips.
Every relationship has three corners – there is you, your partner and the relationship. Respecting yourself and your partner in all possible ways means you are honouring your relationship.
Every relationship is a give and take. Sometimes you need to lose to make your relationship win. A relationship isn’t about winning – it’s about compromise.
Every relationship needs communication. Communication is about feeling safe and being able to express oneself without fear of being ridiculed, intimidated or ignored. Speak openly and truthfully. Listen to your partner. Wait for her to finish speaking before you speak.
Every relationship needs quality time together. Just because you are in each others’ company does not mean you are experiencing quality time together. You need fun time together. Make sure to laugh together. It’s the quality time you spend together that gives the loving memories.
Every relationship has rough patches. You are both human and life can be tough. Having a shoulder to lean on makes a huge difference. Give your shoulder. Give your hand. Give your understanding.
Every relationship needs to keep its physical intimacy alive. Be sensitive to your partner’s mood. You might want sex and your partner might want to be cuddled. Compromise. Be sensitive. Let her know you think she is sexy and beautiful.
Every relationship needs outside involvement. It is impossible for one human being to fulfil all the needs of another. Spend time with your family and friends. Allow your partner to visit with her friends and commit to her hobbies. It’s good to spend time apart sometimes. Enjoy your differences.
Every relationship needs change. Spend some time once a week thinking how you can improve your relationship and keep it strong and lasting. Tell your partner what you are thinking. Together you can discuss how to change whatever has become stale in the relationship and introduce new ideas and ways of doing things.
Every night before you go to sleep, think of something you appreciated about your partner that day. Tell her about it – and say thank you.